What is the most memorable conversation that you had with your parents?
How has it shaped you as an adult?
Justine Lambroschino's Conversations with your Child provides a thoughtful guide to one of the most significant tenets to parenting. It explores one of the most effective, yet often overlooked, components of parenting - communication. For a lot of parents, the bulk of exchanges that they have with their children can be one-sided. Is that enough?
Do your homework. Don't do this. Do that. If any of these sound familiar, it is because these are words are uttered in most households around the world. Not that any of these things are inherently negative. However, these demands do not give an opportunity for children to communicate with their parents. And, in the world of social media, peer pressure, and other outside influences, these words are not enough to cut through the noise and communicate the positive messages that parents want to instill into their children.
Conversations with your Child guides parents through this challenging part of parenting. It helps parents close the communication gap between them and their children.
Lambroschino has interviewed many teenagers directly to uncover the types of conversations they have with their parents and how it affects how they view themselves and how they interact with others in the world. Conversations with your Child is recommended for parents of children of all ages who are looking for nonjudgemental, practical, and thoughtful guidance into creating a positive space where they can effectively communicate with their children.
Conversations with your Child is succinctly summarized in the author's own words: “If the child is not allowed to make mistakes while under the protection of his parents, he will have no experience in recognizing a mistake and recovering from it when he is in the world alone.”
Conversations with Your Child by Justine Lambroschino
Reviewed by Vera Hanley
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The inspiration for Conversations with Your Child came from my own childhood.
Both my parents were first generation immigrants. They grew up in the depression and matured during WW II.
By the time I was born, my parents were established and successful. They wanted the American Dream that was envisioned then: a nice home, children, and vacations.
Child rearing was focused on the physical caring for children: food, clothes, school. Behavior, values and socialization was managed in the community faith-based environment. Religion was the source of information about relationships and character. TV became a part of the American childhood during school age, but it was very different and more disciplined by moral guidelines and less access.
We were observers of adult conversation-not participants. My parents loved to talk about travel in foreign countries; my siblings and I all embraced that interest. Looking back, I idealized and loved my parents. Later I felt I had missed out on communication skills due to the lack of communication in my home, but it was not part of their parenting.
Children are the same today. They pay attention to what their parents do, say and to their interests. In my book, I want to encourage parents to learn about development and interact with their children at their level of brain development and physical ability keeping expectations and understanding realistic in terms of their age and ability and to provide children with communication and relationship skills.
Parenting today includes different challenges that may seem more dangerous than former times, but there have always been challenges. Life has more stuff and distractions that parents can monitor successfully by developing closer relationships with their children through conversations.
I believe parents need to spend time talking and listening to their children-to know them and to let your children know you. Parents can become advocates and cheer leaders, as well as parents and protectors. I hope parents will make it a priority to teach family values and social manners that have become less available from institutions.
I encourage parents to reveal their sacred self to their children.